Monday, 29 September 2014

The Wedding Governor

The photographer does not have transport to come to the venue, one of your bridesmaid's dresses is bursting on the seams, The ceremony is about to start and we need two miracle hours to finish up getting ready, Unity candles!but where is the matches? the caterer might not be ready to serve lunch on time, the groom has a headache and needs painkillers fast! 

Everybody's getting ready! Wedding day chaos. 'Lovely ladies though!'

These are but a fraction of the drama that one may or will encounter on their wedding day. Wedding day just spells out drama, no matter how well coordinated everything is, there will always be a glitch or two, for some the whole day is a glitch.

I personally am an organisation freak, I'm OCD like that and I planned my wedding day to the very last detail, and I mean that literally. I even had a schedule detailing the shade of nail polish I would wear and what time I would do it. 

A screenshot of my basic on the day timetable, fyi there was a more thorough timetable on the details page

Be that as it may; not everything went according to plan, the ceremony started 15 minutes late due to an electrical fault in the chapel, but it was totally worth the wait, 
otherwise we wouldn't have walked down this beautiful aisle 

The lovely aisle courtesy of 'Design by Janet'

to all my planned music, lol. Yep I did tell you I'm a plan freak... literally. On a percentile scale I would give Mr A. and I's wedding  an 80% in terms of going according to plan. 
Music List

Regardless of all the planning I couldn't have done it without the amazing help of my bridal team, friends, family and amazing vendors, I won't mention specifics but I downloaded all our ideas onto them and they tried their level best to see my vision come to life. Despite being a planning freak, I am quite a calm person if things do not go according to plan. My motto is 'Let's make the best of what we have and move on'. 

That leads me to my main issue which is Wedding governing. After my wedding a lot of people urged me to go into wedding planning, I was really tempted to try it out but biggest challenge is time. I work a full time demanding job and would not want to short change my work by dividing my attention. However a good friend of mine who was getting married approached me to assist her by running around for her on her big day. Sounded like an awesome idea, I wouldn't have to totally immerse myself into the planning and would let the bride put most of her ideas together. I would then attend a few wedding meetings and sit with her and get all her information and ideas. Come wedding day I would then be her voice , ensuring everything she desires would come to pass. I then went straight to google to research more on this type of wedding coordinating and discovered that it actually exists and is thriving. Some call these people an On the day Wedding coordinator, a day of wedding runner, a wedding sitter.... and a few more terms I am yet to discover. 

The day finally came and my friend got married, tell you what, after the wedding I thought to myself I should have hired a wedding runner for our wedding, that 20% deficit would have been filled out. During the final meetings I stood up for dear bride with regards to things she couldn't openly express to her family. Her husband and her handed the reigns to me and I placed ground rules that if anyone had a problem or a question it would be directed to me as of the day before the wedding. Her Whatsapp status even said 'For all wedding related issues call ........' and she put my number. From as early as 4 am on the wedding day my phone was ringing like a call centre. When I look back I can imagine all those people calling her instead of me! it would have spelt out nightmare..... an unhappy bride..

Though not everything was 100% up to scratch, I had a happy bride and groom, they had nothing to worry about, even the bridal team and family had developed the response 'Ask Nyasha!' Everyone managed to have fun. One Aunty decided to call me 'The Wedding Governor". I like it! it made sense because I was a bit of a 'meany' (a nice meany with a smile), but that's what you need on a wedding day or else things just won't happen.

There is nothing I enjoyed more than seeing my friend's sisters dance, enjoy and laugh instead of having to worry about when lunch would be served and where the cake knife was. You and your family do not need to worry about such things on your wedding day. Sit back and relax, you've done all you can and now it's time to cash in your efforts.

I thoroughly enjoyed dealing with the chaos in the background and helping my friend enjoy her day. I have a few weddings coming up soon that I will be governing. And have decided to put up my services for all who are interested, sharing is caring:). Believe me it's a small investment you will be glad you made for the rest of your life. I love "LOVE" itself and get a rush from witnessing two hearts joining as one, it doesn't matter who you are and we've never met. On your special day you are what I always tell brides and grooms to be - The ultimate VIPs and Guests of Honour. 

Please find attached a link for further reading on why 'Day-of coordination' is the future and why you need to get in touch with me..... Spread the word :)

courtesy of Kimberly Pilson

As your wedding governor I will also be available to offer advise on any wedding related matters. Once you get in touch you will learn that my services go beyond wedding governing, I have a few more tricks up this wedding sleeve.


Mrs A

Your Wedding Governor